I recently finished reading “The Tao of Badass: Everything You Have To Know To Be A Complete Badass With Women” by Joshua Pellicer. If you haven’t already heard of this book, the “Tao of Badass” is a coaching system that promises to deliver on a very lofty premise: how to be irresistible to women.
What is your goal in your life?
Get a better job, earn more, become a millionaire or f**k 10000 pu**y?
Or do you think all the women are empty soulless dolls?
First of all, this guide has been marketed using “reverse-psychology” approach to get your attention. Once you have completed the course you will understand (or master) that those so called reverse approach is not the secret to get a girl. (who is badass?)
Just to clear up any confusion, yes I am a woman, and I am of the opinion that this book does work to attract women. It worked on me with my husband, lol, but I won’t get into all that. He might not have ever read it, but he certainly behaved like he did…I don’t know… Well, enough about me. Here in this review, I’m providing factual information only.
Now, first things first. Despite what the name might sound like, this book does not teach men how to be a-holes.
This book is a sincere guide that teaches men how to be more assertive with women in a respectable (mostly law) way. The “Tao of Badass” gently coaches men who might be a little shy and timid, how to come out of their shells and find the courage to talk to women.
I should mention that I think this is one of the better publications I have read that explains effective strategies on how to attract women’s attention and keep it.
Say Goodbye to silly mind games and cowardly garbage!
I will go ahead and get an explanation out of the way of what the book is not. There are no silly mind games being preached in this book. There is no sneaky underhanded cowardly garbage. There is none of that, “underhandedly insult women to get them to prove you wrong so that they desperately seek male approval, trying to use reverse psychology to trick them into bed with you.” Which I have seen still unfortunately circulating in the general population. Just to be sure you know what does not work, you should read this.
And think about it a little more profoundly. Would you really want a woman that would fall for that? That sort of neediness, clinginess, and desperation in a female tends to leak out into other facets of life as well.
As a matter of fact, the “Tao of Badass” advocates the exact opposite of that passive-aggressive blather. This book can teach you how to be straightforward and at the same time gentlemanly.
I think this is so much better because it is a lot more accessible to men. And that certainly is more accessible to women. Most likely you are not an a-hole; you are a good guy who wants a woman in his life.
Now, let’s go through this book in a little more detail.
There is a hard universal truth with dating women, and dating period, that you are simply going to have to come to terms with:
Appearance does matter.
This is true for both men and women, not just one or the other.
Now, this does NOT mean your genetic looks that you were born with. That has very little to do with appearance or going out on dates.
What DOES matter a great deal is having the right attitude. Exercising and keeping yourself healthy DOES greatly matter with appearance, because that is something you do have control over. And therefore you should be making the right decisions in that regard.
Smell and hygiene is vital too – Body full of perfumes and mouth full of mint is not the answer!
What the “Tao of Badass” explains that the way you present yourself to the world is important. The way you conduct yourself in public and the way you act around other people.
Women respond, for better or for worse, to the way you as a man feel about yourself. You reveal yourself in-
- -whether or not you keep yourself in shape, (6 foot or 6 packs is not the key)
- -the way you talk about yourself, (it shows your confidence)
- -the way you talk about your job, (hopefully, your job is not professional f**ker)
- -and the way you talk about how things are generally going in your life. (don’t show your desperation to get her p**sy)
This is all sincere advice. There are no trick questions here.
Who told you that you have to become a narcissistic ass to get women’s attention? If you are a genuinely good and kind-hearted person, then you definitely do not want to lose that quality. Generally if you are happy with yourself and take good care of yourself, this will shine through in your appearance.
Again, you have to believe me when I tell you this – I am not saying that physical God-given looks like nose or jaw shape are paramount.
And yes, they also do not mean that one thing that too many men seem insecure about — I am talking about height. That is also genetics and it is not something that can be helped. So don’t worry about it.
Also, it must be emphasized that you do NOT have to be the cookie-cutter “big man on campus.” The popular guy that lettered in college football or whatever. Frankly, I think a lot of women find them a bore anyway. Listen to me carefully – I’m talking on behalf of 98% women; the remaining 2% could be an exception. I know that there are few women with sadistic, psycho behavior who fall under “date & cheat” type category.
If you are a little quirky, I feel that that is definitely in your favor. If you dabble in dubstep electronic music, or you enjoy online gaming and MMORPG. Don’t try to hide your own personality mistakenly thinking that this will get women to notice you more.
What matters to women is again, confidence. Women do place great importance on the way a man presents himself to the world.
- -hair grooming,
- -style of dress,
- -do clothes fit properly,
- -cleanliness, I mean good hygiene <<< ohh boy, this is really important
- -his physical posture (no slumped shoulders of the defeated),
- -the way he carries himself.
It is all about having the right attitude so that you do want to take pride in how you look. It is about learning to be happy with yourself. And if there are factors in your life that you are not happy with, then you must have the courage to do something about them.
That sort of conviction to activity is very attractive to women. As shallow as it might sound, women love men who get stuff done. For even more insight into women’s minds, Get this guide.
If you are naturally more timid and shy, well that is understandable. The good thing is, you will not be alone in endeavoring to do this. If they want, some men might just have a copy of the Tao of Badass in their ebook shelves just to refer to now and then. They can use it to boost them up, for moral support.
This book talks about how to approach women using very specific pinpoint techniques. For example, when you first walk up to a woman you are interested in — obviously don’t stand this close to her; that is creepy and off-putting. But don’t stand so far that she can’t tell if you are talking to her or not.
After I had read these things, I realized that it makes sense. You as a man want to be *assertive,* but not aggressive like a pig dog.
- How soon after walking up to her should you catch her eye and start making conversation?
- What are appropriate conversation topics upon very first meeting a woman?
- When is the right time to ask for her phone number? I think this is a lot harder for men and women than it has to be. Don’t ask for her phone number within two minutes of meeting a woman. First you two have to chat each other up a little bit, see if you enjoy talking to each other.
- How soon do you call her after that first meeting?
- If she agrees to an actual date, how many days later should that be?
- What kind of activities and restaurants would be appropriate for a first date?
If you want, you can think of the “Tao of Badass” as improving and fine-tuning your game. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having that elusive charming quality that is “game.”
This guide is not about hijacking a woman’s mind, hypnotizing or tricking her to sex. It is all about winning a woman’s heart the natural way (and that’s how it should be!)
Don’t think of it as being demeaning to anyone, least of all yourself. You have to have game in all aspects of your life — career, personal relationships, friendships. A little bit of swagger is a good thing.
When a woman chooses a mate, all of these things matter and we take all of this into account. Of COURSE we do.
As you might have gathered, there is an incredibly delicate balance between having self-confidence, self-assuredness, a bit of swagger — and not being an a-hole.
The Tao of Badass teaches you how to tread this fine line very carefully. It is an art, and with enough training you can become a master of it.
Eventually you will be able to train your own mind so that this all comes naturally to you, so that you can incorporate this into your own personality. It is a matter of changing the way you think, so that you can feel better about yourself.
Another positive aspect of this book — One thing that I really appreciated about the “Tao of Badass” is that the author seems to actually respect women, and doesn’t sound like a pervert or Sadist. (To be honest, I read few books on Kindle authored by real perverts, narco-sadists, psychopaths, A**holes or a man who wasn’t born to a mother… well, I don’t have words to explain. I would clap and jump if they were hanged in front of Times Square… now call me a rude woman!)
Sure he is speaking to a male audience, but he does not talk about women as (forgive me) b*tches and h**s that are only worth racking up notches in your belt. He does not see them as empty soulless shells that are just for bagging and then leaving. (Again, forgive me.)
He sees them as whole, healthy, fully-formed human beings, yes equals to men.
The author’s point is that even as equals, if both people really do want a sincere heartfelt relationship, someone’s got to get the ball rolling. Someone has to get the sparks going, so that the relationship can start. So why not the man?
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